How To Save A Relationship 101
Sometimes it may seem like screaming and yelling is the only solution in a frustrating relationship. But there is always a mature and sensible way out. Over reacting, getting excessively defensive or offensive will do you or your partner no good. The main thing is, be aware about the problems in you relationship and know that there is always potential to fix things between you and your partner
How To Save A Relationship: Don’t be Afraid Of Confrontation
The first step to saving a relationship is to be completely honest with your partner. No matter how much the truth hurts, it’s better to get a real picture than live in a fairy tale land forever. Also, it is also important that you hang around long enough to find an appropriate solution rather than just giving up when conflict arises.
Now, once you have figured out that there is something wrong? Things don’t seem like they were before? Sit together and patiently talk about why you and your partner are slowly drifting apart. Don’t be afraid to voice your opinions because you decide to keep quiet and try and fix the problem single handedly there are good chances you will either fail or become a door mat to your partner. Remember you and your partner entered the relationship out of will and not force, then why should only one person make extra efforts for its “maintenance”.
Now, if the discussion turns into an argument- that’s normal and healthy. You both still need to work things out for your own good. However, never leave a heated conversion in the middle or go to bed angry. Chances are that you’re going to wake up in a crabby and crummy mood, which will affect your relationships the next day. The perfect solution is to call it quits when you feel the argument is going nowhere and decide to be stronger and understand each other better the next time
Nancy Dreyfus in her book “Talk To Me Like I’m Someone You love” gives you 101 message cards with lovable and cute phrases to stop a fight. Some of the most popular ones are:
- “I love myself- And You too”
- “I hate fighting. Can we just hug”
- “I treasure you”
These messages seek to convey that your relationship is stronger than any small tiff or argument and nothing can break you apart. Relive the magic and ignite the sparks.
How To Save A Relationship: Let them Know How You feel
Knowing how to save your relationship isn’t just about making quick fixes on your troubles and disagreements. Rather improving the mutual understanding not only involves better communication but also reigniting your fondness for each other. Take time out and make the right efforts to show them that you care. You can express your love and passion by surprising and remembering your anniversary date or even remembering their birthday. To be honest, the perfect solution to a happy relationship is companionship. Seize each other’s attention and make your relationship work with natural attraction. You both need time to voice your opinions and communicate about your feelings. Thus, if you love him or her let her know there’s no point in holding it in. Nobody desires to be a very high second priority in his or her partner’s life. Don’t just adore them rather love them and learn to appreciate what you have.
Finally, saving a relationship is about the balance between attachment and detachment. Like all fingers in your hand are different, no two people are the same. In the same way no two people care or express their feelings in the same way. Now just in case there is a conflict on intrusion of personal space there is absolutely no need to panic. If discussions and compromises don’t seem to work, leave the situation for sometime. Because, in such situations, the last thing you want to do is come across as weak, insecure and possessive. Time is definitely a big healer and sometimes it is very essential to let things take their own course and not try to manipulate everything to our convenience.